“Good job!” and he gets a ‘high five’ at the end and goes along on his way… but does he know what was a ‘good job’ and why he got praised? Probably not. We all fall into this trap of praising kids by saying “Good Job” (with a big smile), it’s easy and quick and you think you are making your kids feel good by acknowledging their achievements but really it’s not the best way of going about it.
I came across a good article that talks about this and gives some great alternatives to the ‘good job’! 😀
Extend and encourage – extend learning and encourage conversation by asking questions about what you see while also recognizing their efforts.
How did you do that?
You did X, what will you do now?
Can you tell me about it?
What is your favourite part?
- How did you think of that?
II actually use these words quite a bit …so maybe I’m on the right track 😉
I think I need to practice the ‘stay silent and just smile’ as I’m always trying to talk to the kids and praise them. I’m noticing that they do turn to me and look for the praise, and Mr. O is constantly looking for attention, saying “look Mommy, look” (but I suppose that is a kid thing but don’t want it to get out of hand).
There is even a great printable to remind you of the great other words you can use…
Good job! 😉